I've found since getting engaged that a lot of women are skipping the wedding, or at least wanting to. I didn't realize how popular this was until I started discussing the desires of non engaged as well as engaged and even married women on twitter and seeing that I was not in the minority in terms of not necessarily wanting a wedding. I think it's a millenial thing. I see that nowadays folks are skipping the wedding all together and opting to elope or have a small ceremony and save the hoopla and the duckets. Something that was unheard of in our parents' day.
I have never been the person that grew up fantasizing about their wedding. I'm extremely low key and don't like fuss or drama. I have always thought weddings are more for the guests than the actual people getting married... I have been in 7 weddings and the stress surrounding them totally turned me off. Spending all that money to entertain others was just never something that appealed to me. I am a travel junkie and want to see the world.... So I've always dreamed of taking the thousands that people normally spend on a wedding and spending a month or so traveling the world. I voiced this to my fiance' several times before he popped the question but I think he just thought I was being jaded and didn't take me serious lol. THEN, we got engaged... and my opinion didn't shift not one bit.
I have come around and am now actively engaging in the most expensive compromise I've ever had to endure lol. I must admit initially I was frustrated, but now I can say I am fine with it all. HOWEVER, that doesn't mean I'm not going to use this blog as a venting tool lol. I recognize that being in a room with family and friends is something that doesn't happen almost ever as an adult... and that is what keeps me motivated and excited about it all. I'm big on family and friends so any opportunity to fellowship with them makes me happy, and I couldn't imagine sharing such an important milestone without them. Though I don't want a wedding I don't want my fiance' to feel as though I'm going to spend this whole wedding planning process secretly wishing that we could just elope, because that's not the case. Sometimes you just have to trust the process, and even though this isn't necessarily how I envisioned my life, I am totally fine just going with the flow. I'm marrying the man of my dreams, so at the end of the day that's all I really need.